Where are the men? Where are the men with courage to have their chests ripped apart by the blade of their enemy’s sword? Where are the men with heart to kill another man when they fight for the right? Where are the men who actually believe enough to stand up for it?
Yet more, where are the men who conquered themselves? Where are those who listen to the voice of truth inside themselves? Where are the men with strong will who would do the right thing even when the world doesn’t like it?
These men don’t exist anymore. Rajul means a man, qeht-ur-rijal means lack of men.
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In one of his short stories, Intizar Hussain said that creation of a flour strainer caused the class system to evolve. I very much agree to this. The rich did not want to eat the rough whole flour, and started eating smoother refined flour. Refined flour is required for preparation of the delicacies, the food of the rich.
When you strain the flour so that you are left only with fine white flour, you take out essential nutrition contents from the wheat. Eating fine flour over extended period of time causes malnutrition and excess of estrogen in body. Excess of estrogen causes testosterone levels to go down. Excess of estrogen is directly related to depression, diseases and loss of virility. Depression and poor health eventually lead to dissatisfaction, loss of will power, sadness, infertility, excessive worrying, guilt and fear.
The psychological defense to their fears is to start believing that there is no reason to be afraid, that they are mighty and will not be resurrected. Hence the excessive worrying, fear and sadness causes most to loose their religious beliefs. They don’t see God’s hand in anything. Everything seems only logical. Life seems absurd. Atheism comes in. Science becomes God.
Since they think there is no hereafter, life is overemphasized. Having a “perfect life” becomes more important. The distinction between right and wrong becomes meaningless. Fulfillment of instincts becomes more important than doing the right thing.
Even if they do realize what is right, they might not actually do it because of the lack of will power.
For this fulfillment and a perfect life, people set certain goals. Perfect physical appearance, wealth, fashion, personality and style and what not…
Now think: If you don’t let such a person fulfill his instincts, his life will become miserable. To fulfill his instincts, he will do anything! He will pay you to have a perfect life. He will pay you for any stupid thing which he thinks is important for his life. Since a man cannot possibly have everything he wants, he will be stuck in the vicious cycle of sadness and temporary happiness he gets by spending money on things he thinks he wants.
Now look at the world today. We have processed foods in plastic containers which are extremely high in estrogen content. People today have higher levels of estrogen levels than ever before. This leads to lack of testosterone which then leads to a host of physical and psychiatric problems. As explained above, the person goes through the vicious cycle. The corporates running under the capitalist economy create all the foods high in estrogen contents. Corporate sector then makes the medicines for all the new fancy diseases. Corporates make cosmetics, designer clothes, and all other things to pamper a human’s instincts. Corporates run media to show you all the californication. You join the missing links. The corporate world is the biggest supporter of science. They are the ones making fun of religions and beliefs.
So today, people have bad health, weak beliefs, they are depressed and worried, they want to have a perfect life and they earn to buy stuff which make them only temporarily happy. All good for capitalism and corporate culture!
If people would stick to basic unprocessed foods, there would be no corporate culture!!! They would be happier, healthier and would be strong in beliefs. All these things simply go together.
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So how can we have men anymore? Real men don’t exist anymore, thanks to capitalism, atheism and the american dream.
Note: Definitely a phenomenal post. This post is from the initial phase of my attempts to theorize why humans cannot be happy. This post was a huge step in the right direction. Though this post might seem only political, this has everything to do with my life, beliefs and feelings. (November 4, 2008)
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:05 pm
Can I cry us a river now? :’(
But what will that do?
Thank you! thank you for taking time to write this & share it.. thanks for squeezin ur heart & mind..
I’ll spread this around.. Maybe, maybe it’ll change something
Thank you!
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:06 pm
Qeht-ur-Rijal?!
Soul, Heart, Mind & Body..: Humma fein? said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:14 pm
[...] source)Qeht-ur-Rijal is a beautiful post written by Stinger.. I’d like to add my voice to his: Humma fein? (where are [...]
stinger said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:18 pm
Sara: Thanks a lot! These are lessons learned the hard way…
Qeht-ur-Rijal is an Arabic word, so you must know its implications better than me…
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:24 pm
Yup
i do 
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:24 pm
but qeht? can’t quite relate it? :$
stinger said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:28 pm
qeht = famine
famine of real men…
Isn’t “qeht” an Arabic word? Urdu has words from so many languages… So I’m really not sure. It might be Persian, Turk, Hindi, Sansikrat or anything like that…
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:30 pm
oh oh.. yeah yeah.. it’s qa’ht.. the ‘h’ is prounounced like ‘ha’, the sixth letter of the arabic alphabet..
right
WOW, I love linguistics
stinger said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:34 pm
My grandfather (who was a poet in Arabic and Persian) would definitely pronounce “qeht” as “qahat”. We Urdu speaking people pronounce it more like “qehet”
Don’t talk about linguistics with me… not my area… My sister is doing her PhD in linguistics, so she might be interested…
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:37 pm
awwwwwwwww.. mashaAllah
I’d love to study that sometime in my life inshaAllah..
Please do send her my salams & tell her that her brother is a linguistically professional writer without him even knowing it!
stinger said,
May 8, 2008 @ 3:42 pm
Lol, sure
stinger said,
May 8, 2008 @ 8:31 pm
Lol!!! Sara, you have a nice display picture
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 8:43 pm
maaaaaaaaaaaan! who did that
a kettle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how do u change that?!
Blogger rules
д§mд said,
May 8, 2008 @ 9:01 pm
Thats a very nice post, Stinger.
Well written and message received. I came across the term a lot never pondered on it, ever.
And this pre-processed food has largely, and sadly, invaded our kitchens too. Giving us a diet thats almost fibre free, magnesium free, iron free …! now that west is going organic, we are going processed.
I was watching Gillian’s You are What You Eat on BBC Food, and almost in every family, the whining and depression attached to their souls can be extracted from Mg free and Fibre free diets.
Thumbs Up *_*
д§mд said,
May 8, 2008 @ 9:08 pm
LOLZ sara .. I got a shock too when I added in my comment … you were tongue out and kinda scary suddenly
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 9:10 pm
http://www.ilookisee.co.uk/Lectures/Hamza%20Yusuf/2/Hamza%20Yusuf%20-%20Food%20For%20Thought%20(www.ilookisee.co.uk).mp3
sara said,
May 8, 2008 @ 9:18 pm
oh, im sorry.. the link isn’t workin for some reason..
okay, u guys can go to this page: http://www.ilookisee.co.uk/Hamza%20Yusuf%202.htm and then click on “food for thought”.. that’s what i wanted to share here
aadil said,
May 9, 2008 @ 4:24 am
simply brilliant msg jaffar dude
u said: “All these things simply go together” – yes everything is so inter-related; the media, the corporate world, the food, the religiousness, the lack of happiness, capitalism- its funny how as much as they affect us we tend to ignore these FACTS and liv continously in the same small box and end up getting caught endlessly in the viscous circle of having not enough will to change and not enough satisfaction without the change as well.
if i b honest- the biggest lie is human prosperity, “insaan nay taraqi ke hay”- even if i assume there is no hereafter, true inner happiness in this world alone is something everyone wants no matter what ur beliefs r and NOT EVEN THAT has been given by this so called “insani taraqi”- what is the point in investing ALL efforts in just making new things everyday when the actual HUMANS using them aren’t being fulfilled?????????????????
i can write a lot more on it but for the time being jazakallah bro for sharing it
lizy said,
May 9, 2008 @ 7:40 am
One of my uncle said this to me and i guess its the solution of every problem we have these days..he said that we should live a simple life..when we live simple,we dont expect too much from the material world…he said that when you simple like the old ppl used to live ,there would be no fear of tomorrow ….you would feel satisfied …and you would be able to pay attention towards ALLAH SWT …i believe thats the only reason we have so many problems going on …for once if we start living simple, we would get the eternal peace of mind .
stinger said,
May 9, 2008 @ 8:04 pm
Sara: The avatar thing is a new feature in wordpress.
Asma: Empty calories is just one aspect. Excessive estrogens is more like a shift in global culture.
aadil: Insaan ne waqai tarai nahin ki, science ne albatta zaroor ki hai
lizy:
I wrote this post because a fellow blogger whines a lot about the way men are today… (She is still to read this post)
lizy said,
May 9, 2008 @ 8:14 pm
okayyy !!! so you mean reason for the weird act is FOOD ???? greatttt
next time a girl does some thing wrong ..plz dont blame her …its not her ..its the processed food in her system
lolssss
stinger said,
May 9, 2008 @ 8:18 pm
Actually estrogen is the “women hormone”. Its excess would have less drastic implications for women than for men. While women would only face physiological problems, men would altogether become more like women. Softer bodies, uncontrolled emotional rushes etc. And that is not how nature intended things to be for men…
lizy said,
May 9, 2008 @ 8:28 pm
So its just the excess of estrogen ? ok i agree to the food thingy and its effects,but thats doesnt give anyone the justification to behave like whatever they want…and if thats the case then, the only men who are acting normal, arent they eating the same food ..or they eat Makai de roti tey sarson ka saag ???
aashely said,
May 9, 2008 @ 9:03 pm
Applause:)
insaan nay terqi tu ki hay lakin woh falah na pa saka
Maryam said,
May 9, 2008 @ 10:01 pm
Its a wonderful observation Stinger, But the sad part is it cannot be changed now, I guess its too late for it.
If people where as intelligent as they are supposed to be to understand the whole chain, the would have alerted themselves long time back. I suppose People choose to ignore and behave as if they dont know anything about it, whereas they too are scared of it, and Know nothing can be done now to change this vicious circle …. Sigh
д§mд said,
May 11, 2008 @ 12:04 am
Hmm … can you link the increasing eve-teasing and society suppression to this phenomenon too?
stinger said,
May 11, 2008 @ 10:09 am
lizy: If someone doesn’t know what wrong food is doing to him, the question of a false justification doesn’t arises. “men who are acting normal”… Define normal?
aashely: yep
Maryam: The important thing is to realize that the whole vicious cycle didn’t simply evolve. The capitalist bosses of the west have made it a point to induce it in our lives, by controlling our food, by putting ideas into our head, by first making us feel that we are average and then luring us to be “different”. Its all a matter of realization.
Asma: Of course! Being less masculine causes men to be insecure, and hence they retreat to violent behavior. That is coupled with the loss of distinction between right and wrong.
lizy said,
May 11, 2008 @ 11:49 am
Define normal?
the opposite of ABNORMAL
д§mд said,
May 11, 2008 @ 2:47 pm
Sahee baat hay
Seriousness is killing me :\
Amina said,
May 12, 2008 @ 1:02 am
i am saking myself same questions…
lubna said,
May 12, 2008 @ 10:59 am
Thumbs up!
Superb!!
Assem said,
May 12, 2008 @ 8:08 pm
Stinger u dnt stay amongst men it seems.. well real men or rather Qeht-ur-Rijal do exist and are all over altho few.. Its sad u stay amongst the sissy ones
Lol im just kidding dude, dnt take it to yr heart, well be honest and answer whether u yrself are Qeht-ur-Rijal??
stinger said,
May 12, 2008 @ 9:42 pm
Assem: If you read the complete post, you would know that ’sissy’ is not a word enough to be a complete opposite of ‘rajul’. I’m not a sissy, still not sure if I’m rajul enough. That is upto God to decide, not me.
Asma: Tum commentry karti raho
д§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:09 am
Do u think ifa man weeps or has a mellow heart … he’s not fit to be called a man.
BTW, no matter what do u say, one witha feminish side or masculine .. you’ll be a
kiddoman, isn’t it so?stinger said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:29 am
Once again, I take man as a person who does the right thing no matter what.
There should be a balance. If someone is so full of testosterone that he becomes totally insensitive to his feelings, the balance has been lost. If a man is so overcome by his emotions that he looses the sense of right or wrong, then once again, the balance has been lost.
Weeping is natural, and fits into the balanced way.
Lol @ kiddo
д§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:32 am
Accha uncle .. sahee kah rahay hogay aap
stinger said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:34 am
First you ask a serious question (not a single smiley in your entire comment), then you criticize a serious answer and resort to saying that I should take things lightly. Then I make fun of you, and you go back to asking serious questions.
д§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:41 am
Check again I used Japanese smiley in first comment
See when I’m serious I ask stupid questions and this post of urs deserved something serious and not too
Hence … now you can write a thesis on how people like to comment on your posts and get a matric degree.
stingerishimmaturish naaд§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:44 am
And are you trying to say fault lies in me and not your highness … uff qeht ur rajjal qeht ur rajjal !!
When will my rajul come from this qeht on a horse’s back … I prefer khotooos though :$
stinger said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:47 am
Lol!!! Man I cannot exactly help you find your khota-riding prince charming.
And when did I say that any fault lies in you? o_O
д§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:49 am
Yo can pray (waqayi na karnay bheth jaana
)
As for fault lies .. jumla accha lag raha tha
stinger said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:51 am
Allah kare tumhe bandar ki shakal wala dulha miley
д§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:52 am
He’s cute
stinger said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:54 am
Who? o_O
д§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:56 am
Dulha :$
On serious note waisay … I believe we should not even in joke associate a funny and seemingly humorous thing as a prayer. Surely, Allah’s the best and wisest of all judges to accept our prayers. But still why we should say a bad thing, agree?
Haan dil par laggi thi yah baat
lizy said,
May 13, 2008 @ 4:32 am
Thanx asma ..great ppl think alike
on a serious note ..yar there is so much tensions and problems everywhere, and we dont know when the next minute of life will end,so kiya bura hai thora sa haans lae to..aur maskhada ho ya maskhadee ,i heard its a sadqa to smile when talking to another muslim..werna ronae keliye problems ka kammi nahee hai
and stinger dude m no one to judge you …so chill
stinger said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
Asma: You’re so touchy about your dulha-to-be
lizy:
You see that is where your life and mine is different. “there is so much tensions and problems everywhere” None in my life. I keep it simple. 
lizy said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:57 pm
stinger: I wasnt talking about my life ,i am talking about life in general,like all these natural disasters,and ppl killing each other,and all the bad stuff, ALHAMDULILLAH ALLAH SWT has given me more than what i desreve MASHAALLAH … so no complains
and yes i keep it simple too 
д§mд said,
May 13, 2008 @ 1:37 pm
accha abb next post plz
I cant pollute this post more 
SK said,
May 13, 2008 @ 9:18 pm
Ah! So THAT’S what happened to him?
Nice post. I titally agree that food has a lot to do with your behaviour. Hmmm…
‘So today, people have bad health, weak beliefs, they are depressed and worried, they want to have a perfect life and they earn to buy stuff which make them only temporarily happy. All good for capitalism and corporate culture!’ True. Quite true.
‘If people would stick to basic unprocessed foods, there would be no corporate culture!!! They would be happier, healthier and would be strong in beliefs. All these things simply go together.’ Yes, but sticking to basic unprocessed food is not always possible. in that case you need food supplements to take care of your deficiencies. Coz, yep! Food, health and behaviour all go together. But the final thig to make the combination work is also prayers and reading the Quran everyday…and understanding it. Experience…personal one (unfortunately)…the period that I was concentrating on e’thing else..even praying diligently of course..but didn’t read the Quran for a long time…I still felt incomplete, looking for answers to and solution to this restlessness in me. Pick up the Quran and all that is gone.
Not at once..takes a loong time sometimes..but the peace then lasts forever. 
SK said,
May 13, 2008 @ 9:19 pm
Nice post.
Oye!! what’s with that thingie on the right next to my comment? ;/ Where is my caricature?
stinger said,
May 14, 2008 @ 12:15 am
lizy:
Asma:
SK: WordPress has revealed your true self
SK said,
May 14, 2008 @ 1:44 am
Hmph!!! Or so you’d like to think…since you are unable to fix this.
veiled muslimah said,
May 24, 2008 @ 10:34 pm
A very beautiful and poignant post. I especially liked the beginning. :thumbup:
farooqk said,
May 25, 2008 @ 7:27 pm
The Y chromosome is called the male chromosome. With every generation this chromosome is getting smaller. So its safe to say that males are going to be extinct soon, and all women will be lesbians! haha
On a more serious note, you’re right, religion and self-respect and all those other great things are dead. Money, pop culture, booze, fast cars and g-strings have taken over. Kya karein? The very few people i see following religion anymore only follow whatevers convenient, baqi they dont even wanna know… Like a very wise blonde once said: ‘Whatever!’ :p
stinger said,
June 2, 2008 @ 12:29 pm
VM: (normally VM would make me think of a virtual machine) Thanks!
farooqk: Something like that
Sean said,
September 24, 2009 @ 8:23 am
Is capitalism to blame or lack of education, and excess corruption?
I believe in free market is that not capitalism? Is a free market only as good as the education of the people driving the market? Does it not take an uneducated consumer to perpetuate such bad ideas? Morals and education are the answers to all problems, back to education as it becomes before morals………………….And back into the rabbit hole we go, the possibilities? Should we relinquish these freedoms to the government to regulate and control? Does socialism lead to misplaced power and corruption? As it has in history time and time again. Does not socialism have it’s big corporations? Does not the government and corporations scratch each others back under socialism. Do you smell that in America Do we truly have a free market or monopolized-government tied corporations kind of like in a socialist nation?
Long live the Republic
Every man must stand tall and proud for freedom and righteousness
stinger said,
September 24, 2009 @ 11:02 pm
Sean, I would totally understand why you said all that, only if you were a CEO of a big corporate delivering a keynote address to fresh grads from a business school.
You are an American citizen, I am a Pakistani.
You need to look beyond the showcase of capitalist fortunes, and realize that the concepts you presented are not working for me.
Please also realise that me disliking capitalism doesn’t mean that I support socialism.
Every man must stand tall and proud for freedom and righteousness << Agreed! But your definition of freedom isn't working for me.
stinger said,
September 24, 2009 @ 11:05 pm
By the way Sean, I finally cancelled off my first credit card last month, now its turn for the second (and the last) one. Would you congratulate me?